I was cleaning out some papers and old notebooks Friday before class and I found a spiral notebook. Inside was a list of things I wanted from my future husband. (I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. I love lists!) I don’t even know when I wrote it. Probably like two or three years ago. Anyways, here is the list:
1. I want him to go to church with me and hold my hand.
2. When I’m sad, I want him to know me so well that he knows I need to sit and cry. I want him to just hold me in his arms and protect me.
3. When I’m sick, I want him to bring me chicken noodle soup. I want him to let me lay my head in his lap and play with my hair while we watch movies.
4. I want him to understand how important Alpha Gamma Delta is to me and not question it when I want to bring snacks to recruitment training to become an advisor, as long as it doesn’t take away from him or our family.
5. I want him to take me on adventures and go places, but also now the importance of sitting around watching movie marathons.
6. I want him to dance with me, but the cute, funny way and not the weird way. (Literally, that is what I wrote.)
7. I want him to love my terrible singing because it makes him laugh. (Bless his heart, he’s gonna have to find humor it because there is no talent in it.)
8. I want him to know when my eyes change colors.
9. I want him to be a man, but treat me like a partner.
10. I want to make family decisions together and have a joint bank account, but I also want each of us to save a little money in separate accounts for emergencies.
11. I want to have a stable flow of income and not live paycheck to paycheck.
12. I want him to have a big heart. I want him to want to foster a bunch of kids with me.
13. I want him to call me Darlin.
14. I want to be able to laugh with him.
15. I don’t want to feel controlled.
16. I want him to take care of me as much as I will take care of him.
17. I want him to pray with me.
18. I want him to reassure me. (Umm. I know I’m fabulous and all, but picking out clothes is like picking out a personality for the day. It takes time. I will change my mind 154 times. He can just take a lesson from my daddy, just tell me I look good in everything.)
19. I want him to keep me protected and feel safe.
20. I want us both to know how lucky we are to have each other and cherish each other.
21. I want him to be a hard worker.
22. I want him to want to teach our kids the stories in the Bible.
23. I want him to take out the trash and clean my hair out of the drain.
24. I want him to be a strong person in his faith and as a leader of the house.
25. I want him to talk with me during movies and answer my questions and shield me from any scary parts.
26. I want him to take Sunday drives with me. (Sunday’s are important. I want family time after church. I want us all to take a long leisurely drive or go down to lake and go fishing or play football in the back yard or running through the sprinkler after we have big family lunch. I don’t want family time reserved for holidays. I want it every Sunday after church.)
So, this is my prayer. I pray that I keep making lists so when he does come, I’ll be ready and know what I want. I pray that I keep my focus on you. I pray that I keep praying. I pray that I keep learning and growing in my relationship with you. I pray that while I am waiting, I am preparing. I pray that I am preparing my heart. I pray that I guarding it safely. And as always I pray for my family and sorority sisters. I pray for my university. I pray for guidance for our government, church, and school leaders. I pray for protection for our troops. I pray for all of those that need you now and for those that haven’t met you yet. In Jesus’ name, Amen.